Threads We Carry: Tradition, the Self, and Holding Space
- Lerato Nonyane
- Nov 1, 2025
- 2 min read
Updated: Nov 21, 2025
This three-part series, Threads We Carry: Tradition, the Self, and Holding Space, is a heartfelt reflection on how our identities are shaped by culture. It delves into the inner struggles we face while carrying the weight of our heritage. Moreover, it explores the healing that becomes possible when we redefine how we hold space for ourselves and others.
Tradition and Duty
In our lives, we often inherit roles that come with expectations. These roles can feel heavy, like a cloak we wear but never chose. As we navigate our paths, we may find ourselves questioning these inherited duties. What does it mean to be the eldest daughter? What responsibilities do we carry, and how do they shape our sense of self?
Tradition can be a double-edged sword. It connects us to our roots, yet it can also bind us in ways that feel restrictive. We must learn to discern which traditions serve us and which ones we might need to let go of. This journey is not just about duty; it’s about discovering who we are beneath the layers of expectation.
The Heart’s Burden
Carrying the weight of tradition can come at a cost. The heart often bears the brunt of these unspoken burdens. We may feel isolated, as if we are shouldering the weight alone. It is essential to acknowledge this quiet cost.
In moments of reflection, we can begin to understand the emotional toll of our responsibilities. We might find ourselves longing for connection, for understanding, and for the freedom to express our true selves. It’s in these moments of vulnerability that we can start to heal.
We must remember that even brave hearts need help. Seeking support is not a sign of weakness; rather, it is an act of courage. It is a step towards reclaiming our voices and honouring our experiences.
Holding Differently
The work of reconciliation and healing is profound. It requires us to hold space differently—not just for ourselves but for others too. We can create a nurturing environment where stories are shared, and wounds are acknowledged.
In this space, we can learn to listen deeply, to empathise, and to validate one another’s experiences. It is here that we can weave new narratives, ones that honour our past while allowing us to move forward.
As we embark on this journey together, let us embrace the imperfections of our stories. They are what make us human. We can redefine what it means to hold space, transforming it into a sanctuary of growth and healing.
Conclusion
Together, these posts form a tapestry of complexity and interwovenness—imperfect, but honest, and always open to reweaving.
As we navigate this journey of personal growth and ancestral connection, let us remember that we are not alone. We are part of a community that seeks to heal, to grow, and to live authentically. Together, we can embrace our stories, honour our traditions, and create a brighter future.
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